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Why can’t we women just be nice to one another?? Why is it that we must be catty, hurtful, spiteful and vengeful towards one another?? Why can’t we all just get along???? This picture is a perfect example of women. We are constantly at each other’s throats, judging the other person and gossiping about another woman. Why can’t we just play nicely with each other??

We teach our children, from a young age, to be nice to one another, so why can’t we moms practice what we preach??? We aren’t nice to one another. We’re all guilty of judging another women the minute they walk into the room. We give them the once over look (and you know what look I’m talking about) and make them feel like shit. We’re all guilty of that, including myself!!!! Am I proud of that? NO!!!!!! I’m not and for a while now I’ve made a conscious effort to not do it.

I had this happen to me a few years ago at a child’s birthday party. One of the moms attending the party gave me the worst up and down stare I’ve ever had. I felt awful afterwards. Not sure what her problem was, was it the cardigan and belt that I wore that offended her? I’m not sure.

Here’s the truth, it had nothing to do with me. It had everything to do with her. She was self-conscious and took it out on me. This is our problem Moms and Women!!!!!!!! We make it out to be about the other person when in fact it has nothing to do with them. It’s all about us and how insecure we feel about ourselves!!!!

Why do we have to make another mom feel crappy about herself because she took the time to dress up or that she packed a certain lunch for her kid or that she took the time and effort to make cute cupcakes for her kid’s classmates!!!!! Why???? Do we really feel better about ourselves after we treat another woman like shit??? I don’t think so!!!!!!!!

Take men for example. There’s no bickering like this. If another guy is wearing something they like they say “hey man, like your vest, where’d you get it?” If even that. They don’t sit there eyeing the other guy, giving him the evil eye, because he had the audacity to dress up. No, they just sit around and drink beers and shoot the shit about sports. They don’t harbour any resentment towards the other guy for dressing a certain way or for doing something better than them.

We women need to stop this awful, childish behaviour. Like I said before, WE ARE ALL GUILTY OF THIS BEHAVIOR!!!!! At one point in our lives we’ve all done this and I’m ashamed.

This could not have come out at a better time. This woman posted this picture on her Facebook page to remind us all that we are busy and full of excuses why not to exercise and the backlash against this poor woman has been insane. People are saying that she is a bad mother, neglecting her kids, “fat bashing”. Honestly the only people saying this are those that are unhappy with themselves and their bodies. They are insecure about the way they look and feel the need to lash out at this mom. This woman was not “fat bashing”, she was merely trying to make a point that we all have our excuses for not exercising but we need to start making it a priority.

I don’t know this woman and I don’t want to speak for her, but here’s the message I got out of this: she is teaching her kids that she values herself enough to take good care of herself; that she wants to be around to live a healthy life for herself and for her kids; she is teaching her kids about health and nutrition. So please all you insecure people that are ripping this poor woman a new hole, get off your fucking pedestals and stop attacking her!!!! Start looking at your own life and stop judging someone else. You’re not going to change the way you feel about yourself by attacking someone else. All this woman was trying to do was shed some light on the fact that we are all busy and have a myriad of excuses for not exercising. We all need to make a conscious effort to get healthy.

The DJ’s on the radio the other day were debating this and one of them said it was “fat bashing” and the other one said that we are all guilty of this. She raised a great question “none of us spend any time in front of the tv!!!!!!”. We all do and that was the point, this woman is not neglecting her kids as she works out 1 hr a day and her husband looks after them. She is making a choice to take care of herself instead of sitting in front of the tv, which we are all guilty of.

My good friend is a fitness trainer and she looks amazing. Do I judge her for looking the way she does? No. I’m proud of her and I also know that I will never look like her, but that’s ok. Her goal is to get people to be healthier and that is also the goal of Maria’s.

We all make the choice to eat that donut and to not exercise. No one forces us to eat unhealthy, it’s our choice and we should stop slamming other women for their choice to be healthy. I love my friend Jenny and am proud of how healthy and amazing she looks. She is my inspiration. We should look at Maria for inspiration, not to look like her, but to be the healthiest we can be.

So please let’s all stop this insane business of bashing one another, beating the other person down all because of our own insecurities. Good for this woman for taking care of herself. Good for that mom who dresses nicely. Good for that mom who takes the time to make cupcakes for her kids class. Good for that mom who makes her baby’s baby food from scratch. This is not a competition ladies, so let’s stop perpetuating this. We should be empowering one another, not breaking each other down!!!!!

I vow to stop this right now. All it takes is for us, women, to take a stand and say no more!!!!! I will not tolerate this anymore and nor should the rest of us. Let’s stop bullying one another and making each other feel like shit because of how we feel about ourselves. Let’s start building one another up to be the best moms, women, wives, people we can be!!!!

I know that I focus this blog on fashion, but when you look at the core of it, it’s not about designer brands or dressing like a movie star, it’s about being the best person you can be, it’s about feeling good about yourself, about dressing so that you feel pretty.

Yes I’m mad, because I thought all this childish behaviour was long done and buried, but I realized not that long ago, wrote a post about it here, that we women behave like a bunch of 30-40 year old teenagers!!!!!

May this blog inspire us all to stop judging one another and start behaving the way we want our children to behave!!!!

Good for Maria for having the courage to post this picture and for taking the time to stay healthy for herself and for her children. Let’s all stand together and support Maria and not tear her down!!!!!!

Happy Friday and Weekend!!!!!!