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Why can’t we women just be nice to one another?? Why is it that we must be catty, hurtful, spiteful and vengeful towards one another?? Why can’t we all just get along???? This picture is a perfect example of women. We are constantly at each other’s throats, judging the other person and gossiping about another woman. Why can’t we just play nicely with each other??
We teach our children, from a young age, to be nice to one another, so why can’t we moms practice what we preach??? We aren’t nice to one another. We’re all guilty of judging another women the minute they walk into the room. We give them the once over look (and you know what look I’m talking about) and make them feel like shit. We’re all guilty of that, including myself!!!! Am I proud of that? NO!!!!!! I’m not and for a while now I’ve made a conscious effort to not do it.
I had this happen to me a few years ago at a child’s birthday party. One of the moms attending the party gave me the worst up and down stare I’ve ever had. I felt awful afterwards. Not sure what her problem was, was it the cardigan and belt that I wore that offended her? I’m not sure.
Here’s the truth, it had nothing to do with me. It had everything to do with her. She was self-conscious and took it out on me. This is our problem Moms and Women!!!!!!!! We make it out to be about the other person when in fact it has nothing to do with them. It’s all about us and how insecure we feel about ourselves!!!!
Why do we have to make another mom feel crappy about herself because she took the time to dress up or that she packed a certain lunch for her kid or that she took the time and effort to make cute cupcakes for her kid’s classmates!!!!! Why???? Do we really feel better about ourselves after we treat another woman like shit??? I don’t think so!!!!!!!!
Take men for example. There’s no bickering like this. If another guy is wearing something they like they say “hey man, like your vest, where’d you get it?” If even that. They don’t sit there eyeing the other guy, giving him the evil eye, because he had the audacity to dress up. No, they just sit around and drink beers and shoot the shit about sports. They don’t harbour any resentment towards the other guy for dressing a certain way or for doing something better than them.
We women need to stop this awful, childish behaviour. Like I said before, WE ARE ALL GUILTY OF THIS BEHAVIOR!!!!! At one point in our lives we’ve all done this and I’m ashamed.
This could not have come out at a better time. This woman posted this picture on her Facebook page to remind us all that we are busy and full of excuses why not to exercise and the backlash against this poor woman has been insane. People are saying that she is a bad mother, neglecting her kids, “fat bashing”. Honestly the only people saying this are those that are unhappy with themselves and their bodies. They are insecure about the way they look and feel the need to lash out at this mom. This woman was not “fat bashing”, she was merely trying to make a point that we all have our excuses for not exercising but we need to start making it a priority.
I don’t know this woman and I don’t want to speak for her, but here’s the message I got out of this: she is teaching her kids that she values herself enough to take good care of herself; that she wants to be around to live a healthy life for herself and for her kids; she is teaching her kids about health and nutrition. So please all you insecure people that are ripping this poor woman a new hole, get off your fucking pedestals and stop attacking her!!!! Start looking at your own life and stop judging someone else. You’re not going to change the way you feel about yourself by attacking someone else. All this woman was trying to do was shed some light on the fact that we are all busy and have a myriad of excuses for not exercising. We all need to make a conscious effort to get healthy.
The DJ’s on the radio the other day were debating this and one of them said it was “fat bashing” and the other one said that we are all guilty of this. She raised a great question “none of us spend any time in front of the tv!!!!!!”. We all do and that was the point, this woman is not neglecting her kids as she works out 1 hr a day and her husband looks after them. She is making a choice to take care of herself instead of sitting in front of the tv, which we are all guilty of.
My good friend is a fitness trainer and she looks amazing. Do I judge her for looking the way she does? No. I’m proud of her and I also know that I will never look like her, but that’s ok. Her goal is to get people to be healthier and that is also the goal of Maria’s.
We all make the choice to eat that donut and to not exercise. No one forces us to eat unhealthy, it’s our choice and we should stop slamming other women for their choice to be healthy. I love my friend Jenny and am proud of how healthy and amazing she looks. She is my inspiration. We should look at Maria for inspiration, not to look like her, but to be the healthiest we can be.
So please let’s all stop this insane business of bashing one another, beating the other person down all because of our own insecurities. Good for this woman for taking care of herself. Good for that mom who dresses nicely. Good for that mom who takes the time to make cupcakes for her kids class. Good for that mom who makes her baby’s baby food from scratch. This is not a competition ladies, so let’s stop perpetuating this. We should be empowering one another, not breaking each other down!!!!!
I vow to stop this right now. All it takes is for us, women, to take a stand and say no more!!!!! I will not tolerate this anymore and nor should the rest of us. Let’s stop bullying one another and making each other feel like shit because of how we feel about ourselves. Let’s start building one another up to be the best moms, women, wives, people we can be!!!!
I know that I focus this blog on fashion, but when you look at the core of it, it’s not about designer brands or dressing like a movie star, it’s about being the best person you can be, it’s about feeling good about yourself, about dressing so that you feel pretty.
Yes I’m mad, because I thought all this childish behaviour was long done and buried, but I realized not that long ago, wrote a post about it here, that we women behave like a bunch of 30-40 year old teenagers!!!!!
May this blog inspire us all to stop judging one another and start behaving the way we want our children to behave!!!!
Good for Maria for having the courage to post this picture and for taking the time to stay healthy for herself and for her children. Let’s all stand together and support Maria and not tear her down!!!!!!
Happy Friday and Weekend!!!!!!
I LOVE this post! One the first topic, you are so right. Women are so mean to each other. I don’t understand why we are mean to each other. I am as guilty as the next person, but I actually do try to make an effort to be nice to everyone. And as I get older, I want everyone to know they are beautiful, even if its not in the “traditional” sense. We have to stop being mean to each other and start loving each other (that’s what Jesus would want too!). On the second part….I love that this woman shows that you can be healthy and fit even with children. You don’t have to let yourself go. A lot of women use the “I have children” excuse for not being healthy or in shape. In my opinion, people make happen what they want to happen when it comes to time. What is a priority to one person may not be to another, but it is still their priority. And I don’t mean choosing workout over children. I’m talking about aside from children. Some women may watch 3 hours of television, while others may go out with friends a couple of nights a week, and others may eat healthy and workout during that time. Kudos to her for staying healthy…it is setting a great example for her children.
XOXO Jess
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Thanks Jessie for your comment. I really appreciate. I’m glad there are other moms out there who get it.
Thanks Jessie. Too bad some women just don’t get it!!!!!
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Excellent Agi! So true and I find in my 40′s that I realize how tough life can be and to cut each other some slack and be nice. I saw Maria speak on one of the morning shows and she seems so real and sweet. Good for her. Yes, it is about choices. My in-laws are obese and make a lot of excuses. Use it or lose it! I have been guilty of judging other women and work on being real and kind every day. I know I have tons of insecurities and taking those out on others is not the answer. Happy weekend!
Thanks Christa. Yes people are full of excuses and reasons why not to be healthy. Maria is not asking anyone to look like her. It’s pointing out that we all are busy and we need to take responsibility for ourselves.
Great post! Totally agree!
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Love this post! I am always working on not judging others and being supportive of our differences. And I felt the same way about the backlash over maria Kang and her photo! I found it so inspiring and a great reminder that I can always find time to take care of myself!
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Love this post! Where I live, I am unusual in that I always like to dress nice. I’ve been told that people think I’m a snob because of it. Not that my clothes are expensive or anything, I just look put together and don’t show up in to school in sweats. Did it never cross their minds that I just like clothes and looking nice? Apparently not. I also make exercise a priority and when people question me about having the time I tell them that I am setting a good example for my kids by showing them that fitness is important. It’s funny how taking pride in your appearance and trying to be healthy can offend so many people. I appreciate this post because I can relate to it a lot!
I couldn’t agree more. It is so frustrating that women are so unsupportive of each other. I find the older you get the more you realize it is so much easier to be nice to people than mean. It is also so obvious when someone has low self esteem and constantly need to tear people apart. I applaud this woman, 3 children and she looks like that! Good for her. Why does society need to try and make her feel bad?
Thanks for being on the same page! Hopefully others read this and think twice the next time they intentionally make someone feel bad.
Have a Great week-end!
Pia
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Thanks Pia, and yes I really hope so. We women can be so cruel to one another and it’s so unnecessary.
Agreed!
Definitely agree. I’m not a mom yet but I can imagine there’s a lot of judging going on with moms and how they raise their kids. I think it’s great that that fit mom is taking care of herself!
~Jessica
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Thanks Jessica
I totally agree!! I mean, she is a fitness trainer too, so it is HER JOB! I also think people like to complain and be negative. Mostly, people love to place the blame on others and take full responsibility for their actions. (i.e. I’m a mom, I don’t have time to work out, I’m have x disease, I’m can’t afford a gym, etc <—- all excuses) I think the woman is inspiring!
Thanks Whitney
You are so right Agi & its so wonderful to read your open & honest views! I’ve always been accepting of everybody but at times have been treated in a similar manner! I always try to rise above it & be extra nice back just to really get their goat!! Its definitely a problem within them & an issue they need to deal with! I never had you down as a swearer…..you go Girl!! <3 Big Hugs & Thank You! Andrea x
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Yes unfortunately i can swear like a sailor but i do try and keep it out of my blog as much as possible. There is a time and a place and felt the place was then. Yes it definitely is always better to rise above or as I did i eventually just ignored the person.
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