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The Golden Rule

The Golden Rule

For my son’s preschool graduation, my aunt sent him the book “The Golden Rule” by Ilene Cooper. We read it to him and I didn’t realize that the quote “DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU” is actually known as the Golden Rule. This is the perfect book for your child. This entire book is a teachable moment. It doesn’t just preach the Golden Rule, it explains it. It explains it from the perspective of a child.

I enjoyed that it not only discusses the meaning of the Golden Rule but it gives you the different interpretations that the various world religions have on it:

Christianity: You should love your neighbor as you love yourself.

Judaism: What is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow humans.

Islam: Hurt no one so that no one may hurt you.

Hinduism: This is the sum of the duty: to do nothing to others which would cause them pain.

Buddhism: Do not do to others what would hurt you.

Shawnee Tribe: Do not kill or injure your neighbor, for it is not he or she that you injure; you injure yourself.

Here’s the thing they are all saying the same thing. It may be said in a different way, but the meaning is the same.

We should all look at the Golden Rule as a way of life, because when I look around many of us, including myself, have forgotten it. I look at the way some people treat each other and it disgusts me. We all need to step back and remind ourselves that we should treat each other with love, respect, compassion and forgiveness for it’s because of this lack of love, compassion, respect and forgiveness that our world is in the situation it is in.

It starts at home with our children, teaching them this. We as parents need to emulate this and show our children what love, respect, compassion and forgiveness will get us. The Golden Rule starts at home, it starts with treating ourselves, our children, our partners the way we want to be treated. I know that I’m guilty of it at times, being short someone, or my son or my husband. We all need to remind ourselves to take a step back and think how would we like it if someone treated us that way? Even if they do treat us with disdain/disrespect that doesn’t mean we need to perpetuate that. Why not pass along love, it goes much farther and makes us all feel better.

May this blog inspire you to remember the Golden Rule and teach your children it. It all starts at home. How can we expect the world to change if we don’t start it at home?

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The End Of Your Life Book Club by Will Schwalbe

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This month my book club read a heart warming book, by Will Schwalbe, called “The End of Your Life Book Club“. This a love story about books; about life and death; about living in the moment; about giving as much as you can to the world around you; about selflessness; and most importantly about family. The story takes place over the course of 2 years in which Will’s mother, Mary Anne, battles pancreatic cancer. The story is told by Will about his mother’s life, past and present and about their shared love of books.

The children grew up surrounded by books. Instead of watching tv and playing video games, the kids were encouraged to read books. Will describes that if you looked into their home on any given weekend, you would find the entire family immersed in books. The book club arose when Will accompanies his mom to her doctor’s appointment and they begin to discuss the books they are reading. They soon swap books and realize that they have formed a small, person of 2, book club. The title is explained in the book as each book we read may be the last book we ever read, which is definitely the case for Mary Anne.

I love the relationship Mary Anne has with all her children, especially the one with Will. It reminds me of my relationship with my son and what I wish for us to have in the future. My husband, myself and my son all love to read and I only hope that some day my son and I can sit down and share with each other the books we are reading, just as Mary Anne and Will do.

I especially enjoyed when Will refers to the book “Charlie and the Chocolate Factory” by Roald Dahl. It is my absolute favourite children’s book. I’ve lost count on how many times I’ve read that book. I also have both movies, the old version and the new one.

Will discusses a book called “Suite Francaise” by Irene Nemirovsky. I’ve had this book for 3 years but haven’t had time to read it. Will explains how the author, during WW2, was sent away to a concentration camp and was killed, but before that, she had given her daughter a book containing this manuscript. At the time, her daughter had no idea what was in the book, not until years later did she discover a beautiful story written by her mother. After I read this, I’ve decided that it’s going to be the next book after the one I’m currently reading. I enjoyed how Will gave a brief history of the books and detail without giving away too much of the book. There is a list at the back of the book of all the books Will and his mom read and referred to. Gotta say, I’ve got many of them flagged :).

Will describes in the book how they, the children, could get out of anything, well almost, if immersed themselves in a book. He called it the “do not disturb me, I’m completely absorbed in the book” trance. I love it! I find myself in those trances many times and I hate being disturbed. I get so involved in a book that I literally think about it all the time. I absolutely love their love for books. I can’t tell you how much I enjoyed this aspect of the book.

Although this story takes place mostly during Mary Anne’s struggle with pancreatic cancer, there are so many beautiful and happy moments. Mary Anne continues to live after her diagnosis. Although she refuses to give in to the disease, she is realistic and does make preparations for when she is no longer around. She tries to make her death on her family easier.

I think I’ll leave it at that as I don’t want to give away any more details. It’s a beautifully written book, that will warm your heart, make you laugh and make you cry and make you appreciate your life.

May this post inspire you to purchase this book and share your favourite books with the people in your life.

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Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet

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I recently read this amazing and, yes, bittersweet novel by Jamie Ford calledHotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet“. The story goes back and forth between 1942 and 1986. It takes places in Seattle after Japan attacks Pearl Harbour and when the US collects all US Japanese citizens and places them into internment camps. In 1986, Henry finds himself back at the Panama Hotel, where he discovers that in the basement of hotel remains the belongings of many of the Japanese families that were forced into internment camps. This triggers memories of a once lost love.

The story begins with Henry recounting how his wife died and how he is sort of estranged from his son. Henry goes back and forth between 1942 and 1986 to recount his upbringing and a love story, between himself, a Chinese immigrant and a beautiful Japanese American girl named Keiko. It’s interesting to see how a current and past love bring the Henry and his son closer together.

What I find remarkable is how not only does the the author, Jamie Ford, immerse the reader into 1942 Seattle, but how he leaves you feeling like you are part of it. While I was reading it, I felt like I was watching Henry’s story, rather then reading it. I felt like I was there with him. I’m such a romantic at heart and I loved how “love” transcended race and prejudices. To Henry Keiko wasn’t Japanese, she was just a pretty girl. At first he was terrified of what others would think, especially his family, but by the end he didn’t care. He loved Keiko.

This is much more than a love story. It’s about overcoming prejudices and loving a person for who they are. One of my favourite quotes from the book comes from Keiko when she explains to Henry why her parents like him: ” …they don’t define you by the button you wear (Henry’s parents made him wear a button that said “I am Chinese” so that he wasn’t mistaken for being Japanese). They define you by what you do, by what your actions say about you… They don’t see you as the enemy. They see you as a person“(p.227). Such poignant, honest, real words from a young lady. I wish we could just all see one another as people and not define each other by gender, race, sexual orientation or religion!!!! Why does someone have to defined as a Jew, for example??? Why can’t they be seen as the person they are, instead of their race and religion.

I cried at the end of this book, because it is a bittersweet tale of love and of not letting convention define you. We are more than our race, gender, religion and sexual orientation. WE ARE ALL PEOPLE!!!!!!! This book also gave me a great history lesson.

May this blog inspire you to purchase this book. It’s a quick read and will leave your heart full of hope and happiness.

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The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry, The Rosie Project & The Book Thief: 3 Must Read Books!!!!

I recently finished reading 3 funny, bittersweet, heartbreaking yet hopeful books. Each in their own way, immerses the reader from the first words, captivates you and takes you on a life changing adventure.

The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Frey: Vodka Infused Lemonade

Let’s start with “The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry” by Rachel Joyce. The story begins with Harold receiving a letter from an old friend/co-worker, Queenie, who tells him that she is in the hospital dying. What begins as a simple walk to mail his letter to Queenie, quickly becomes a walking pilgrimage to Queenie.

As one of the reviewer’s mentioned, Harold Fry is extremely infuriating and frustrating to the point where you want to yell at him and shake him out of his dullness. As the story progresses it becomes clear to the reader that although Harold begins his pilgrimage to save his friend’s life, the pilgrimage quickly shifts to become about Harold’s journey. This is a story that all of us can relate to. You become almost hypnotized in your day to day life, to the point where you don’t make an effort, you just go through the motions, which is exactly what became of Harold. Through his journey, Rachel Joyce reveals Harold’s story, his past, his history, she explains to the reader why Harold has become the way he is. Once it becomes clear to the reader why Harold’s life has turned out the way it has, you empathize with him, you become less judgemental and more understanding.

The end of this amazing tale will leave you thinking about your life, will make you examine why are in the place where you are and gives you hope that no matter how lonely and down you feel, you can change things around.

The Rosie Project: Vodka Infused Lemonade

The Rosie Project” by Graeme Simsion is a sweet story of a man looking for love. This man is not ordinary. Picture Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory and mix that with Dr. Brennan from the tv show Bones and you have Don Tillman. Don is a scientist who decided to approach finding a wife as one would a science experiment. Don constructs an in-depth 16 page questionnaire to find the perfect wife. What he soon discovers is that no women will give him 100% of the answers he seeks.

Although Don is extremely anal, which is putting it mildly, some of his questions/answers are also deal breakers for me. For example smoking is definitely a no in my books. Punctuality is also very important. I hate it when people are late, especially when they are chronically late. It’s rude and disrespectful; my time is just as valuable as yours. I also agree that enjoying a food is a must, although this is where Don and my similarity ends. I do not think that enjoying eating brain and other stomach churning organs is what I would define as enjoying good food. For me a foodie is someone who enjoys a good steak, or amazing pasta, an aromatic glass of wine, etc. I know that that is very subjective as evidenced my Don’s definition and women’s reaction to this question.

The story takes an interesting turn when Don meets Rosie. Rosie is looking for her biological father and enlists Don to help her find him. Through their experiment in finding Rosie’s father, Don and Rosie quickly develop a relationship. Rosie in no way fits into Don’s questionnaire, idea of his “perfect wife:, but in the end it doesn’t matter. Love conquers all, or does it??? You’ll have to read it to find out what happens.

Graeme Simsion writes a sweet tale of the journey to finding love. Isn’t that what we are all searching for?!?!?! I believe there is a bit of Don in all of us. We all have deal breakers when it comes to finding the qualities we want in another person. In the end, we all just want to find someone who loves us for us, idiosyncrasies and all!!!! :)

The Book Thief: Vodka Infused Lemonade

The Book Thief” by Markus Zusak is a story that will break your heart, bring tears to your eyes, and question life and death. The story takes place right before WW2, before Hitler becomes a monster and kills millions of innocent men, women and children. It was a very hard story to read as although the story itself is a work of fiction, the events that lead to the massacre of millions of innocent people isn’t. I kept having to remind myself that this happened, that people were killed for their race, and for that matter, people are still being killed for it.

Markus Zusak immerses the reader into the life Liesel Meminger and her adoptive family in pre and post WW2 Germany through the narrator, who is death. As the title suggests there is a book thief, which is the main character Liesel. She accidentally steals a book that has fallen to the ground at her brother’s grave and that begins her life of crime: stealing books. She picks it up and with the help of her adoptive father, learns to read. This book is not about stealing books, it’s about Liesel’s love to read, to tell a story. It’s about life and death, it’s about strength and determination, it’s about seeing the beauty in an otherwise atrocious situation.

The Meminger family takes in a Jewish man and hides him from the Nazi’s. Liesel and he develop a bond over books and story telling. Through the horrific events that encompass Liesel’s world, there is this beautiful, bittersweet story.

I’ll end this by saying that it’s a very hard book to read, to imagine all the atrocities that happened, yet there is love in this book, there is life, there is light where there is death and darkness. From tragedy Markus Zusak shows that there is beauty, that in the depths of hell one can still see light, smile and love.

May this blog inspire you to read all 3 or just one. I promise that you won’t be disappointed.

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Unbroken by Laura Hillenbrand

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I’ve had this book, Unbroken from Laura Hillenbrand, on my must read books for over a year and finally I was able to read it. I didn’t know anything about the book, but the reviews were amazing and it did not disappoint.

This is a true story about Louis Zamperini, who overcomes unimaginable obstacles and hardship. From childbirth, Louis was not a child to be contained. He did whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted to. It wasn’t until his older brother, Pete, convinced him and basically forced him into running, did Louis change. He became disciplined and determined. Through his determination, Louis became an Olympic hopeful. He broke numerous records despite his fellow competitors jealousy. His Olympic dream was cut short when he enlisted into the Army. Soon he was headed into WW2 as a Bombardier. The story takes a turn for the worst when Louis and 2 other crew men get stranded in the Ocean for 47 days. The story continues with absolute atrocities committed agains Louis and the other survivor in a Japanese POW camp.

This story is unbelievable and painful to read at times, but Laura shows the reader how Louis is determined to survive and head back to his family. Louis survives absolute vile and inhumane conditions. He eventually gets back to his family where he has to adjust to living back at home. He has to adjust to living in the real world, with no one to torture and torment you. He has an extremely difficult time adjusting as no one wants to discuss what happened and truthfully no one can understand, unless they were there themselves.

This book review is timely considering Monday Nov 11 is Remembrance/Veteran’s Day. While reading this book I couldn’t help thinking about what Louis and the other men endured. I also thought about what our current soldiers endure and witness and it breaks my heart. I lost a good friend who was killed by an IED on Dec 30, 2009 and I can’t begin to imagine what he saw.

Louis reminds us all that you control your life, your future; that your past doesn’t define you. Yes our past is our history, but it’s just that, history, we shouldn’t let it define us. We should move past it to become the person we want to be. When you find yourself down, overwhelmed and just ready to quit, think about Louis and how his determination saved his life.

His story reminds me of something Oprah said. When you find yourself down and so low that you can’t keep going, remind yourself to be grateful for your breath, the ability to breathe. I know it sounds a bit odd, but I’ve found myself doing that. When I’m so overwhelmed that I can’t even breathe, I think about my breath and that fact that I can breathe and it helps.

I hope that you put this book on your Christmas list for not only yourself but for the people if your life. This book is a story of survival, of never giving up, of change, of never becoming a product of your environment. Louis could have succumbed to depression, to alcoholism, to despair, but he didn’t. It took him a while, but he found a way to overcome his past, to not be a victim of his circumstances or of his past.

May this blog inspire you to not only read this book but to try and be grateful for your breath when you find yourself overwhelmed. Louis is a great example of survival and what humans are truly capable of.

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Autism: Tapping Into Every Child’s Potential

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I read the most amazing book, “The Spark” by Kristine Barnett. My husband and I were in a little bookstore in Penticton and the title caught my eye. I read the first page and was hooked!!!!! I basically read the introduction within minutes and told my husband that I was going home with this book. Even though my son is not Autistic I felt like Kristine wrote this book for every mother and father. The book resonated with me for two reasons:

1. In her dedication, Kristine writes “For Michael, who makes the impossible possible every day And for everyone who’s ever been told they can’t”.

2. Kristine ends her introduction by saying “But for me, more than anything it is about the power of hope and the dazzling possibilities that can occur when we keep our minds open and learn how to tap the true potential that lies within every child”.

After reading this, I had tears in my eyes. As a child, I always felt like I had to do things for my mom, because it would make her happy. I felt like instead of listening to what I wanted to do, I had to do things in order to appease her. When I had my son, I made a promise to myself that I would not force my son to do things in order to make me happy; that I would listen to what he is telling me. A great example is that we realized quickly that Aiden had not only a huge interest in dancing, thanks to Angelina Ballerina, but that he had a natural aptitude. The thought never crossed my mind that my son would be interested in dance but he totally is. My husband and I listened and watched and last year we put him into dance. He absolutely loved it!!!!!! We listened to him and what he was telling us and instead of forcing him into something he didn’t want to do we followed his lead. I know too many kids who are forced into things that they didn’t want to do because their parents want it. Rather then looking at what your child is good at, the parents don’t care, the child has to do what they want them to do. It ends up being about the parent instead of being about the child!!!!

One of Kristine’s main points in this book is for parents to foster what their kids are good at. She shares a story about when Jacob first goes to school after his diagnosis and how the therapists are focusing on all the things Jacob can’t do, therefore not only does Jacob not respond well to the therapy, he doesn’t respond at all. Kristine explains that if people around us only focused on what we couldn’t do, we wouldn’t want to do anything either. She realized that if for part of the time she did what he wanted to do, she was able to do some therapy with him and make some progress. Focusing on the positive allowed Kristine and Jacob to work on the things he needed to work on.

Kristine runs a daycare and she always fostered and focused on what the kids were good at. A little boy got frustrated playing blocks and Kristine realized that he was frustrated because he didn’t have enough. She filled her car with as many blocks as she could find and the boy built an amazing structure. Today that boy is studying at a world renowned school for architecture. Kristine didn’t have to listen to that child, she could have just passed his behaviour off as a tantrum, instead she really listened to the boy and realized he was frustrated. How many times do we get frustrated??? We have to give our kids the benefit of the doubt and enable them rather then label them and forget about them.

This is a beautiful story about a mother who never gave up on her child; who helped her son overcome insane obstacles to now be known to have an IQ higher than Einstein’s. And this is the boy they said would never learn to tie his shoes or the boy who was told not to bring his alphabet cards to school because he would never learn his alphabet let alone learn to speak. I hope those people read Kristine’s book and changed their way of behaving and treating Autistic children. If we always approach children with what they can’t do, what hope do we give them??? Kids can sense what we are feeling and feed off of our energy, so if we aren’t optimistic how can we expect them or their parents to be?

Jacob’s story will melt your heart and make you cry. You can see every child in Jacob. Every child has obstacles they have to overcome and it’s our jobs as parents to help them overcome them. Kristine went with her gut, defied conventional treatment and fought for Jacob.

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This is a book that should be in every syllabus in College for anyone taking any courses that involve working with children, should be a must read for every one that has kids or who has ever taken care of kids. Our jobs as parents and teachers is to foster the potential in every child.

I want to leave you with a quote from Kristine: “If a child who was never supposed to talk or read can rise to such improbable heights, imagine what children without such challenges might achieve, and how far they might soar if we encouraged them to unfurl their wings- past any horizon, past even our wildest expectations. By sharing our story, I hope that will happen”.

Thank you Kristine for your honest, thoughtful story about you and your families journey. Thank you for also giving hope to thousands of mothers out there struggling with children that are Autistic.

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May this blog inspire you to read “The Spark” by Kristine Barnett and to foster the children in your life to achieve anything they want.

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Thank You Sheryl Sandberg!!!!!!!!

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I recently saw an interview that Oprah did with Sheryl Sandberg. Before the interview all I knew about Sheryl was that she had written a very controversial book and that she was getting lots of flack for it. After watching the interview, I was intrigued and inspired to read her book “Lean In”.

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During the interview Sheryl addresses her critics and discusses many salient points. She talks about being called a “feminist” in college and how she shied away from being defined as one. When we think of feminists, many of us think of bra burning, granola eating, breastfeeding hippies. But the reality is that a feminist is just someone who wants a better world for women. In that case I am a feminist and so is almost every other woman out there. There’s nothing wrong with being a feminist.

I want to thank Sheryl for addressing many key issues that plague modern day women:

1. Can you have it all?

2. What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

3. Working together to create equality.

4. Leaning in. Sitting at the table with the big boys!!!!

5. Can a woman be successful and likeable?

6. Careers are no longer a ladder, but a jungle gym!!!

7. Importance of mentoring.

8. Being honest with yourself and others.

9. Focus on your career; don’t leave before you leave!!!

10. Make your husband a real partner: 50/50!!!

11. You can’t have it all (not at once, anyways!!!!!)

12. Working together for equality.

This book really resonated with me because we as women struggle every day to try and juggle a work life balance. I’m so glad that she was honest in acknowledging that a work-life balance doesn’t exist; that you can’t have it all, at one time. Something does have to give and that we can’t do it all at once. She explains that at different times in our lives, different things are important. When our kids are little for some women that means cutting back their work hours and taking care of them, for others their careers are what takes front seat. She explains that we need to stop focusing on trying to have it all and to realize that we can only do what we can do and that some things will have take the back burner. That doesn’t mean, though, that in our entire life time we can’t have it all, it means that at one point in time we physically can’t do it all and that we shouldn’t be expected to.

Sheryl discusses her own struggles with doing it all. She says she tries to be home at 5 pm for dinner every night and then she works after she puts her kids to bed. She acknowledges that it’s challenging and that at times she does miss recitals, bed times and soccer games but then there are times when she isn’t working and doesn’t check her phone. She says it’s a work in progress. Sheryl is honest and admits that she is not perfect and that she too is a work in progress; that at times it’s hard for her to take her own advice. I appreciate that candor because many people write books, stating that you should do things this way and that way and they aren’t able to do it. It’s nice to have someone be honest for a change and admit that it’s not easy and it takes a lot of effort.

Another point of hers I really liked was “what would you do if you weren’t afraid?” I thought about that and I still don’t have an answer. It’s a very important question and she talked about how different our lives would be if only we lived like we weren’t afraid. It’s easier said than done when we have bills to pay and need to support a family and she does acknowledge that point. What would you do if you weren’t afraid??? I wish I had an answer for that.

The one that really hit home was the point about 50/50: women working more and men helping out more at home. Sheryl explains that studies have shown that women who work are happier, in turn their marriages are better. Husbands who help out more at home equals a happier marriage and happier kids. I know from personal experience I am a much happier person, woman, mom and wife now that I’m back to working part time. Don’t get me wrong juggling everything is hard, but I feel like I got a bit of myself back. I also see that my son is happier when my husband is home taking care of him. Sheryl explains that everyone benefits when the roles are more equal. I couldn’t agree more, but the problem is achieving this. She completely acknowledges that it’s not easy and that it requires lots of hard work and communication.

This is something that my husband and I have struggled with for years, establishing more equal roles. I know that my friends and I complain a lot about juggling everything and feeling like it’s one sided. I agree with Sheryl that it’s a discussion that must be had between you and your husband. The biggest problem is that we, men and women, see things differently and have different expectations, which is why it’s so important to communicate with one another. For my husband and I it’s a work in progress. I think it’s helped that I’ve gone back to work and my husband works from home.

I could go on and on about this book. I definitely think that it’s a book that everyone should read. Our world would be a better place if there was more equality, more acceptance and support for women. It is definitely a work in progress but the only way things will change is if we women and men take the bull by the horns and make it change.

May this blog inspire you to read Sheryl’s book “Lean In”. I would love to hear your thoughts.

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Must Read Books Of The Summer

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I love to read!!! To say that I love to read is an understatement. I remember going to the library as a child and taking out as many Nancy Drew and Fear Street books as I could carry. I would fly through the books. I guess what I love about books the most is that they take me away to a different world, where my imagination can take over. It allows me to disconnect from reality for a few hours.

As a child I always dream’t of having a library in my house. Unfortunately my library consists of a few bookcases in the hallway, but my dream of having a room lined with books from ceiling to floor remains. Some day I will have my “dream” library complete with a fire place, a chaise where I can read my books and a secret passageway that can only be opened if you move the right book.

My love for reading has definitely been passed down to my son. Reading is very important to my husband and I and I am thankful that our son enjoys it as much as we do.

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On our road trip, I managed to read 3 fabulous books: Inferno by Dan Brown, Bones Are Forever by Kathy Reichs and Summerland by Elin Hilderbrand. Each book is a different genre: Inferno is a thriller, Bones Are Forever is a forensic murder mystery and Summerland is a bittersweet story of love, life and relationships. Each book immerses the reader from the very first page and takes you on an adventure. I enjoyed these books because they were a quick read and because they all dealt with different subject matter.

Do you guys like to read? What type of books interest you? Any books that are a must read? Please share :)

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Valley Of The Dolls: Life Imitating Art

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I recently read the book “Valley of the Dolls” by Jacqueline Susann for my book club. It was an eye opener. The book takes place and was written in the 60′s. It discusses the lives of 3 women trying to make it in Hollywood. If there was no mention of money, you would never have guessed that this book was written back then. This book reminds of me of something Lauren Weisberger would write.

The story is about 3 women Anne, Neely and Jennifer, who desperately try and fit in, in Hollywood and in the end, end up losing who they are. They compromise who they are to try and fit in and to feel loved. Anne says that she would rather love someone than to be loved. The quote broke my heart. I don’t think that you should ever have one or the other. It should always be about being loved and loving someone. I was once told that I should find a man who loves me more than I love him. It’s disgusting actually and it would never work. My husband and I love each other equally. Loving someone and not being loved, is manipulative and desperate. In the end, Anne ends up suffering for believing in that.

The Valley of the Dolls brings to light the idea that money and fame can’t bring you happiness. It can’t and we see it time and time again. Look at all the famous and rich celebrities and how many of them are truly happy??? Look at Lindsay Lohan, is she happy? Poor Cory Monteith is also another example. He had everything going for him, money, fame, a hit show, a gorgeous girlfriend and it wasn’t enough.

I can see why this book is known as the “all time pop culture classic”. It transcends generations. It discusses themes that are relevant today and will continue to be relevant. It’s definitely a book that I would recommend that everyone reads. Too many of us look to celebrities and think their lives are perfect and that if we only had our 15 mins of fame, we could be happy. The truth is we don’t really know the “real” lives celebrities lead and we don’t know the demons that they fight.

Appearances are deceiving. Instead of focusing of what others have and what celebrities have and do, we should focus on making our lives better, because we all know that money does not buy you happiness.

What are your thoughts?

May this blog inspire you to read “Valley Of The Dolls” and to not idolize the lives of celebrities. At the end of the day they are also human like us. They may make millions, live in enormous houses and drive insanely expensive cars, but at the end of the day, they are just like us and have issues and battle demons just like us “normal folk”.

Happy Tuesday Everyone!!!!

“The Glass Castle” & How I Can Relate

The Glass Castle

I finally read the best selling memoir by Jeannette Walls, “The Glass Castle”. I’ve been wanting to read this book for a long time, but never got around to it. It was on sale recently and I finally bought it. From the first words written by Jeannette Walls, I was captivated. Through out the novel, I had to keep reminding myself that her story is real, that what I am reading actually happened. Jeannette Walls wrote a beautiful, sad memoir about her childhood and the environment in which she grew up in. She grew up with 3 other siblings in squalor and was raised by very mentally unstable parents. Despite her parents were mentally unstable, they managed to teach Jeannette and her siblings how to read, they taught them about history, about the stars, about life. In their own way, they made some things special for the kids. Jeannette recounts one Christmas where they didn’t have anything and her Father gave them each a star as a Christmas gift. They were told to pick out anyone they desired. Of course we all know that you can’t just give someone a star, but her dad didn’t care, he made it special for them. It remains one of Jeannette’s fondest memories of her childhood.

This story hits very close to home. Although I didn’t grow up in squalor, I didn’t grow up under the best circumstances. I don’t write this easily as I don’t share much about my childhood. It took me years to tell my husband things and I still have a very hard time telling him. I can relate to what it’s like growing up in an unstable home. This book touched me, as I could relate to how Jeannette felt, how all she wanted to do was escape. That’s exactly how I felt and honestly I couldn’t wait to leave home, once I had graduated Nursing.

I had the honour this past Wednesday of hearing Jeannette speak about her book. She explained that she was able to move past the hurt by realizing that her mother and father were/are mentally ill and they didn’t know any better. That they did the best they could with what they had. She said that she has made peace with it and that although it was a hard childhood, there were good aspects of it. It has made her who she is.

As I was getting my book autographed, I broke down explaining how brave I thought she was for being able to forgive her parents. I told her that, that is what I am struggling with, learning to forgive, not for the other person but for myself. She was extremely kind and told me that I may never be able to fully get over it but that it is a process. That I shouldn’t be hard on myself, that I have an amazing, supportive husband and loving son. It made me feel good, because every book I’ve read says that I have to forgive. I have a very hard time forgiving people that have betrayed me. I know that forgiveness is for you not for the other person, but for some reason, I can’t seem to do it. It felt really good to share my story, briefly, and have her understand what I am talking about.

If you get a chance, please read this amazing, bittersweet memoir. It’s not just for people that have had difficult childhoods, it’s a great read and will make you appreciate your childhood and your life even more.

Thank you for letting me share my story. It’s not easy opening up and being vulnerable, but sadly I know that I am not the only one who has had such a childhood.

For those of you reading this who have had difficult childhoods, don’t let it define you. You are not the product of your circumstances. You have the power to change things, you just have to believe it and in yourself.

Thank you Jeannette Walls for your kind words and for giving me permission to take my time and for saying it’s ok.

Happy Tuesday Everyone.

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