What I’ve Learned This Summer Is That I can’t Have It All and It’s Ok

I struggled with what to title this post. Should it be “You Can’t Have Everything!!!”, “What I’ve Been Up To”, and then the current title came to mind. Yes it has been a while and it’s been mostly by my choosing. This Summer my son was 5, the last Summer he and I would have together before he starts his school career. It’s also the first one where he and I could completely enjoy (he being more independent).

Before this Summer, when we would go to the park, the pool, the beach or even my backyard, I would have to stick close by him. This Summer everything changed. I felt like he was more independent, more confident, more understanding of rules and consequences. This has been the Summer where we could go to the park and I could relax more, where we would go to the pool and I could enjoy watching him jump off the diving board (with his life jacket on), knowing that he can swim and that he’s comfortable in the water. Although I’m still extremely vigilant, and by his side, I can watch a little more and be a little less hands on. Does that make sense?

So with this found independence for my son, came a little less independence for this mom. I found that we were out more in the pool and beach and less at home, which mean’t less time for me to blog. I just couldn’t justify keeping us both indoors while I spent hours blogging, researching, taking outfit pictures. I wanted us to enjoy the beautiful, warm weather, enjoy our Summer, make memories. So I unconsciously and then consciously made the decision to not kill myself trying to juggle it all, because I just couldn’t!!! I couldn’t blog every day and put in the effort that it required to do good quality posts, while running my household, working (shift work sucks!!!!!!), and trying to enjoy our very short Summer. I didn’t want to plunk my son down in front of the tv while I blogged. I wanted us to enjoy our Summer. I wanted to enjoy being his mom and play with him. Also please keep in mind that my husband and I have no family here to help us. It’s just him and I and my son is also not in daycare, so that means it really is just my husband, me and my son. No help.

There’s 2 things that I have learned in my 35 years of existence and that’s “Never say never” and “You can’t have it all!!!!!”. It’s true, you can’t have it all, no matter how hard you try. You can delude yourself into thinking you can, but you can’t. Somethings gotta give and will give. There’s no such thing are perfection; as a perfect home, perfect life, perfect marriage, perfect child, perfect mother, perfect wife. What does exist is making it right for you. All these superficial magazine articles titled “You can have it all, just read these 5 points” is total bullshit. Something will suffer, someone will suffer, and most likely it will be you, your sanity and your health.

I felt like that was happening to me. I was trying to juggle it all and I felt like I was going crazy. I was frustrated, irritable and exhausted, not enjoying things and I didn’t want that. I wanted to enjoy being a mom and enjoy my son being 5. So I chose to make that my priority. I will always have blogging, but my son will not always be 5. Next Summer will be different. He will be 6 by then with different needs and life will also be different as it’s always changing.

So I hope by writing this post you understand that you can’t have it all, to give yourself permission to make your family and your health a priority. I read many comments and posts this Summer from other fellow mom bloggers about how it’s been hard to juggle everything in the Summer. It’s ok. We all feel the same way.

I am hoping that once my son is in school full time (the teachers are on strike, so I’m hoping that by the time you guys read this on Monday it has resolved), I can dedicate more time to my blog and be back to blogging more regularily. I have so many ideas for my blog and what I would like, but I have to be patient as all good things come to those who wait.

May this blog inspire you to realize that you can’t have it all and to not beat yourself up over it. Do the best you can and that’s all you can really do.

Happy Labour Day Everyone!!!!!

We are headed out to enjoy our last long weekend of freedom and of the Summer.

Vacation Mode & Tres-Chic Fashion Thursday Link Up

I know I’ve been MIA since last Thursday. I worked all weekend and then we headed to the Okanagan for a few days to visit with family, relax and enjoy the sunshine and wine. So today’s post will feature 5 bloggers for my favourite looks of last week.

Tres-Chic Fashion Thursday Link Up

It’s that time of the week for my link up. Thank you to all 124 of you fabulous ladies that linked up last week!!! :) An amazing turnout!!!!! Thank you :) If you are interested in co-hosting please email me at vodkainfusedlemonade@gmail.com. If you’ve already co-hosted and would like to again, don’t hesitate to email me.

This week’s fabulous co-host is Conni from Art in the Find

Art in the Find

Here are my favourite looks from last week:

Tara from Penniless Socialite

Penniless Socialite

Carylee from More Pieces of Me

More Pieces of Me

Dawn Lucy from Fashion Should Be Fun

Fashion Should Be Fun

Bogi from Red Reticule

Red Reticule

Nora from Jacket Society

Jacket Society

Rules

1. Must be a new post, or fairly recent one. Please link the post not the blog.

2. Please follow me via FacebookBloglovinPinterest or Twitter.

3. Please follow Conni from Art In the Find via bloglovin.

4. Please stop by the other blogs and say hi. The idea is to get to know other bloggers .

5. Please link back to my blog or post this button on your blog.


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How To Create An Outfit & Tres-Chic Fashion Thursday Link Up

Last week I needed to run to the grocery store and I was just going to put on a maxi dress and head out the door. Then it dawned on me that I could add a denim vest, my heart pendant and my cross-body bag to make my simple maxi dress into an outfit. Have you ever just walked out the door in simple jeans and t-shirt and then saw someone who added a necklace and blazer and thought wow, she sure looks put together??? That’s exactly what I was thinking as I was putting together my outfit. Why head out the door in a simple maxi when I can look and feel more put together??? It took me only a few extra minutes and I felt much better about myself.

Maxi Dress

Dress (Gap). Vest (Old Navy). Necklace (J Crew). Watch (Michael Kors). Bracelet (Stella & Dot). Purse (Fossil c/o The Bay).

The key to creating an outfit is to slowly build on it. Start with a blank canvas. In my case it was a simple maxi dress. Next step is to add a cardigan, blazer or a denim vest. The idea is to complete the look. You can also do that with a scarf, once the weather gets cooler. Next add some jewelry. A great statement necklace, bracelets, earrings, watch, hat, you name. The key is to add some subtle touches. Then add some cute shoes, in my case I decided on some sandals. I then completed my look with a cross-body bag. Again the purse can bring the entire outfit together. It may seem daunting but play around with your jewelry, with hats, scarves, purses, shoes. It’s exactly like dress up!!!!!!

Maxi Dress

Maxi Dress

Maxi Dress

Sandals

Sandals

Maxi Dress

Maxi Dress

The next time you’re putting together an outfit, consider adding some finishing touches like jewelry, hat, scarf, fabulous shoes or cardigan/blazer/denim vest to make an outfit out it.

Tres-Chic Fashion Thursday Link Up

It’s that time of the week for my link up. Thank you to all of you fabulous ladies that linked up last week!!! :) An amazing turnout!!!!! Thank you :) If you are interested in co-hosting please email me at vodkainfusedlemonade@gmail.com. If you’ve already co-hosted and would like to again, don’t hesitate to email me.

This week’s fabulous co-host is Emma from It’s Emma Elise

Emma Elise

Here are my favourite looks from last week:

Sarah from The House of Shoes

The House of Shoes

Adri From Adri Lately

Adri Lately

Janise from Mama in Heels

Mama In Heels

Rules

1. Must be a new post, or fairly recent one. Please link the post not the blog.

2. Please follow me via FacebookBloglovinPinterest or Twitter.

3. Please follow Emma from It’s Emma Elise via Facebook.

4. Please stop by the other blogs and say hi. The idea is to get to know other bloggers .

5. Please link back to my blog or post this button on your blog.


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Chambray & Stripes Day & Night

I got inspired for this next outfit by the lovely Carylee from More Pieces of Me. She styled a chambray top with a striped skirt. Love the result. So I decided to style my chambray and striped skirt 2 ways: one for the day and one for the evening. I’ll be honest I don’t have a job that requires me to wear heels, it really doesn’t require me to wear anything other than comfy scrubs and supportive shoes. So for me to wear this outfit with heels during the day is totally unrealistic. Imagine me chasing a toddler around the park in heels??? It would be quite entertaining to say the least :) I did, however, manage to come up with a very realistic day look for us busy moms chasing our kids around. For a day look try wear the chambray as a jacket over a graphic tee, converse runners and a cross-body bag. It’s still a polished look, but comfortable and realistic for a busy mom on the go. For an evening look try tying the chambray top, add heels, pearls and a colourful clutch.

Chambray & Stripes

Style it with a graphic tee, runners and cross-body bag

Chambray & Stripes

Top (American Eagle) Graphic Tee (JAC by Jacqueline Conoir). Skirt (Gap). Shoes (Converse c/o The Bay). Purse (Fossil c/o The Bay).

Style it with a simple knot, heels, colourful clutch and accessorize with pearls

Chambray & Stripes

Top (American Eagle). Skirt (Gap). Shoes (Aldo). Necklace (J Crew). Bracelets (Jacob). Purse (Kate Spade). Watch (Michael Kors).

May this blog inspire you to try pairing Chambray with stripes and see all the different outfits you can create.

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Happy Hump Day Everyone!!!!!!

Polka Dots and Stripes

I was inspired for this outfit by the wonderful Tara from Mix and Match Fashion. She styled a striped skirt with a cute sleeveless blouse. It gave me the idea of styling my red and white striped skirt with my sleeveless polka dot blouse. I don’t wear this blouse much and I’m trying to find new ways of styling it. I love how the outfit turned out.

Stripes

Top (Jacob). Skirt (eShakti). Purse (Banana Republic). Shoes (Aldo). Bracelet (Stella & Dot). Watch (Michael Kors).

Stripes

Wedges

Stripe Skirt

May this blog inspire you to style polka dots with stripes and to find different ways of styling things in your closet.

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Happy Tuesday Everyone!!!!!!

Shirtdress & Featured Blogger

I’m really excited to be the featured blogger on Leeann’s blog Join The Gossip link up. If you aren’t familiar with Leeann’s blog she does a link up every Monday, so stop by and link up.

Today’s outfit post consists of a shirtdress. They are super trendy this past Spring and Summer and I’m hoping they continue into the Fall. I actually am on the hunt for a cute one for the Fall, so if any of you see one, please let me know.

Shirtdress

Dress (Smart Set). Necklace (Banana Republic). Bracelet (Stella & Dot). Watch (Michael Kors). Shoes (Tory Burch).

Shirtdress

Shirtdress

Chain Link Necklace

As you can see, I’m keeping today’s post short and sweet.

May this blog inspire you to purchase a shirtdress to transition you into Fall.

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Happy Monday Everyone!!!!!

Thank You, My Son For Reminding Me That There’s A Child In All Of Us!!!!!

Being an adult is hard!!!!! It’s stressful, tiring, frustrating and at times makes you cry. Having a child just heightens these feelings. You get more stressed knowing that you have this little being relying on you for everything. Your levels of fatigue go to a level that you never thought was possible!!!! :( You lose your temper at the smallest things due to lack of sleep and anything will make you cry. But then a time comes when all your hard work pays off, where you child gets to a point where you can actually do things with them.

This past Summer is really the first time I can say that I’ve felt like this. Where I can go out with my son and not stress, and have fun. I realized this last week when we went to the beach. The sun was shining, the lake was inviting and warm and we were together, playing without a care in the world. I don’t have many moments like that, where I feel like a kid without a care in the world!!!!!! I thanked my son for that. I told him how much I appreciate that he reminds me to be a kid and to not things too seriously.

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We’ve had more fun this Summer than any other since he’s been born. Maybe it’s the fact that he is older or it’s me being more relaxed or a bit of both, but I truly can say that I’ve had the best Summer ever. It’s so nice to spend time at the beach or the outdoor pool. We have an outdoor pool nearby and we go 2-3 times a week. Don’t get me wrong, I do plenty of things at home, cook, clean, work, blog, etc, but I’ve really tried to ensure that we do something fun every day and that we enjoy this time together.  For example, I bought him a workbook and while he does that, I scrapbook. Honestly it’s so much fun. We sit at a table together and work, listen to the Frozen and Tangled soundtrack, sing along and work. It’s really nice. I feel like all that hard work at the beginning is paying off.

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The other day I was absolutely exhausted from an insane nightshift and my son came up to me and told me to forget about work and he pretended to take the tired thoughts out of my mind. He made me cry. It was exactly what I needed and you know what, my fatigue went away!!!!!

So the point of my post is this, that although this stage of your child rearing is crazy, it pays off, it gets easier. You do get a point where you can go to the park and watch him play and you yourself can relax and also play. You are reminded of what it feels like to be a kid and honestly it’s in all of us. We just need to tap into it more. We need to relax and let loose more.

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So my dear Aiden, thank you so much for reminding me that I also need to have fun and that it’s ok to be a kid once in a while.

May this blog inspire you to tap into your inner childhood and have fun with your kids.

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Happy Friday & Weekend Everyone!!!!!!

Berry Picking at Krause Farms & Tres-Chic Fashion Thursday Link Up

It’s been on my bucket list to go berry picking with my son and last Wednesday we not only went, but we had a blast. Gotta say my son is better berry picker than I am :) We had so much fun!!!!!! My husband is coming with us next time to pick some raspberries. We went to Krause Farms, located in Langley. At Krause Farms it’s about much more than berry picking. You can enjoy some wine tasting, have a yummy waffle breakfast, enjoy their amazing milkshakes and corn pizza. They also have a store where you can purchase vegetables (their corn is honestly the best I’ve ever had), home made pies, honey, syrups, and yummy donuts. My husband quickly figured out that my trip was about much more than berry picking. It was about food. It usually is about food, for me anyways. There are still quite a lot of berries left for picking, so if you want, make your way to Krause Farms.

I love that once you arrive, you wait for a very small school bus and it takes you to the blueberry fields, where someone greets you and gives you your own row of berries to pick from. I basically just held my bucket underneath the bush and watched plump, juicy blueberries fall into it. My son was a great picker. He not only picked just ripe berries but he didn’t eat any. Very proud of him. He also ended up filling up his basket completely, all by himself. Lots of fun was had by both of us. We are really excited to go back with my husband and enjoy the waffles.

Krause Farms

Krause Farms

Krause Farms

What I wore to Krause Farms

Stripes

Stripes

Krause Farms

Krause Farms

Krause Farms

Krause Farms

Krause Farms

Krause Farms

Krause Farms

Krause Farms

All the amazing fruit we picked!!!!!

Krause Farms

Tres-Chic Fashion Thursday Link Up

It’s that time of the week for my link up. Thank you to all 129 of you fabulous ladies that linked up last week!!! :) An amazing turnout!!!!! Thank you :) If you are interested in co-hosting please email me at vodkainfusedlemonade@gmail.com. If you’ve already co-hosted and would like to again, don’t hesitate to email me.

This week’s fabulous co-host is Amy from The Real Arnolds

The Real Arnolds

Here are my favourite looks from last week:

Jessi from Haircut & General Attitude

Haircut & General Attitude

Tara Belle from Northern Lights-Southern Bells

Northern Lights-Southern Belles

Jessica from Jeans & a Teacup

Jeans & a Teacup

Rules

1. Must be a new post, or fairly recent one. Please link the post not the blog.

2. Please follow me via FacebookBloglovinPinterest or Twitter.

3. Please follow Amy from The Real Arnolds via Bloglovin.

4. Please stop by the other blogs and say hi. The idea is to get to know other bloggers .

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Flower Power

Today’s outfit is courtesy of the classic combination of black and white. You can’t go wrong with that combination. Summer is still in full swing here and I decided to wear a polka dot t-shirt with a white skirt, my J Crew flower necklace and for a hint of colour, I added pink wedges. I’m trying to get as much wear out of my Summer clothes as I can, because in a few short months, I’ll be back to wearing mostly boots.

Black & White

Top (Banana Republic). Skirt, Necklace & Shoes (J Crew). Bracelet (Stella & Dot). Watch & Purse (Michael Kors).

Black & White

Black & White

May this blog inspire you to create a classic black and white outfit.

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Happy Hump Day Everyone!!!!!!

A How-To On Top Knots & Tres-Chic Fashion Thursday Link Up

Top Knot

Last week I posted a picture of me and my top knot. Since I got such a positive response, I thought I would include a quick how-to on creating a top knot. Honestly it’s as easy as 1-2-3. 3 steps and you’ve got yourself a top knot.

Creating A Top Knot

Creating a Top Knot

Creating a Top Knot

Creating a Top Knot

Creating a Top Knot

Creating a Top Knot

It really is easy as 1-2-3. You can add a fourth step of straying your hair, but I like the way it looks all natural.

Tres-Chic Fashion Thursday Link Up

It’s that time of the week for my link up. Thank you to all 121 of you fabulous ladies that linked up last week!!! :) A great turnout!!!!! Thank you :) If you are interested in co-hosting please email me at vodkainfusedlemonade@gmail.com. If you’ve already co-hosted and would like to again, don’t hesitate to email me.

This week’s fabulous co-host is Liz from Look by Liz Lewis

Look by Liz Lewis

Here are my favourite looks from last week:

Angie from Reasons To Dress

Reasons to Dress

Lexi from Streets of Gold

Streets of Gold

Tara & Devin from Salt & Pepper Moms

Salt & Pepper Moms

Rules

1. Must be a new post, or fairly recent one. Please link the post not the blog.

2. Please follow me via FacebookBloglovinPinterest or Twitter.

3. Please follow Liz from Look by Liz Lewis via bloglovin.

4. Please stop by the other blogs and say hi. The idea is to get to know other bloggers .

5. Please link back to my blog or post this button on your blog.


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